ABOUT FRIENDS
How can I not lonely?
It's a sunny day, all your friends have a plan, but you do not. They went for a walk and have fun. Again, you're not invited! Being a person who does not count very troublesome to the heart, but what is implied from it could be worse. 'Maybe there's something wrong with me,' you said in the liver. 'Why is no one who wants to be friends with me?? "
Perhaps, more than once you have experienced a situation like that described above. You may feel there is a wide gap between you and your friends. You stutter every time you want to start a conversation with them. When you have a chance to hang out with them, shame appears. Why is it so hard to get along? Instead of just standing and staring at the abyss that, you can menjembataninya. Let's see how.• Ravine 1: feeling insecure. Some young people unremitting low self regard. They believe that no one likes them and that they do not have interesting material to talk about. Is that a feeling about you? If yes, feeling insecure will only widen the gap between you and your friends.Bridge: Focus on kelebihanmu. Ask yourself, 'what kelebihanku?' Surely you have a shortage, and good if you're aware of it. But, still there are many things that you have. Realizing kelebihanmu will give you confidence that you are free from feeling inferior.• Ravine 2: Shame. You want to start a conversation, but when it comes agreements, such as locked your mouth.Bridge: Have a genuine interest to others. Do not worry! You do not need to turn into a very sociable person. Begin by showing personal interest to one person Duu. 'Simply by asking the news or work of others you may know them better'.Tip: do not just begaul with peers. Remember also that the conversation is a dialogue, not monologue. People appreciate a good listener. So, if you tend to be shy, remember not to talk down to you to continue!• Ravine 3: The attitude that is not fun. People who knowingly always ready insulting, sarcastic, or denounced. There are also people who like to argue and impose his opinions to everyone. You certainly do not like having contact with people like that. However, lest this gap is formed because you are acting like it.Bridge: Cultivate 'attitude empathize'. Even if you do not agree with others, patiently let him speak. Search yng not cause the subject of debate. If you feel compelled to declare ketidaksetujuanmu about a subject, to do with how soft and biaksana. Treat others as you want to be treated. Continue to do things without grumbling and berebat. There is nothing like anywhere near people who always bicker or poke ngolok, also insulting or criticizing others sanctimonious. People like you more if 'words ALWAYS FUN'
Hm,After reading a few things that may help you to overcome your problems, you also have to be realistic you know! You can not expect everyone to like you.
:) Tiurma
